Easing Back-to-School Anxiety: Expert Tips for Parents
Back-to-school season is an exciting time filled with new beginnings—new teachers, new classmates, and reconnecting with friends. However, for some students, this time of year brings anticipation, stress, and worry—feelings that often manifest as anxiety. To help parents navigate this challenging period, Drake Thomas from the Center for Integrated Counseling and Psychology offers expert advice on how to ease their children’s back-to-school anxiety.
Understanding Back-to-School Anxiety
Q: Anxiety can be so overwhelming for parents because they often don’t know how to deal with it. What do you see as the main reason children experience back-to-school anxiety?
A: There are a few significant reasons, but one of the primary factors is the newness and uncertainty of the situation. Just like adults, children experience anxiety when faced with the unknown. Whether it’s starting a new job, going on a first date, or even attending an interview—these are all situations that can provoke anxiety in adults. So, it’s not uncommon for kids to feel nervous about a new school year and not knowing what to expect.
Key Triggers of Anxiety in Kids
Q: What are two or three key factors that contribute to anxiety in kids?
A: One of the main triggers across all age groups is the need for acceptance. Kids often worry about whether they’ll fit in, and unfortunately, bullying can make these fears even more pronounced. Children may ask themselves questions like:
- Will I be able to make friends?
- Who will accept me?
- Which teachers will like me?
- Will anyone notice my potential?
These concerns can weigh heavily on a child’s mind, making the return to school a source of significant stress.
Tips for Easing the Transition
Q: What are some tips for gradually easing kids back into the school routine?
A: There are three key strategies for helping kids ease back into the school year:
- Reestablish the School Schedule: About two weeks before school starts, begin adjusting your child’s schedule. Start setting an alarm earlier and enforce bedtime routines. Even mealtimes should be adjusted to align with the school day. No one likes being “hangry,” and making these changes early on can help kids adjust to the new routine.
- Limit Screen Time: If you plan to restrict device usage or TV time during the school year, start implementing those rules now. While summer is often a time of freedom, gradually reintroducing limits will help kids feel more in control as the school year approaches.
- Game Plan for a New School: If your child is starting at a new school, it’s crucial to have an open conversation about their anxieties and goals. Discuss what they liked about their old school and how those positives can be carried over, as well as areas for growth that they can work on in the new environment.
For parents, one of the most important things is not to project your own anxieties onto your child. It’s natural to worry about whether they’ll make friends or find their way around a new school, but try to talk about these concerns from a place of confidence and excitement. Your child will model your attitude, so a positive outlook can make a big difference.
When to Seek Professional Support
Q: One last question—how do you know when it’s time to seek professional support for your child’s anxiety?
A: As a parent, you should be a grounding source of support for your child. If you’re finding that despite your efforts, your child’s anxiety is still significantly impairing their day-to-day activities, it may be time to seek professional help. The key is to listen to your child and talk to them openly; when these conversations aren’t enough, reaching out for extra support can be the best step forward.
Back-to-school anxiety is a common challenge, but with the right approach, parents can help their children navigate this period with confidence and ease. By understanding the causes of anxiety and implementing practical strategies, you can ensure your child starts the school year on the right foot.