Social Anxiety vs Shyness

Many kids are simply “slow to warm up” in new situations, and that can be a completely normal part of their personality. But sometimes what looks like shyness may actually be social anxiety.

When to Pay Closer Attention

Shyness is usually nothing to worry about. But you may want to reach out for support if your child’s struggles are:

• Preventing them from participating in everyday activities
• Causing loneliness or unhappiness
• Much more intense or long-lasting than what you’d expect

Helping Kids Build Confidence

If your child is naturally shy, you can still help them feel comfortable by:

• Preparing them for social situations ahead of time
• Praising their bravery when they try something new
• Giving them room to warm up at their own pace

Understanding Social Anxiety

Social anxiety often begins between ages 8–15, though it can appear earlier. Parents can watch for the intensity, frequency, and duration of their child’s fears.

Helpful tools include:

• Box breathing (inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4)
• RAINBOW grounding (naming one thing for each color around you)
• Talking openly about worries in a safe, supportive way

If anxiety begins to interfere with school, friendships, or everyday life, that’s often a sign it’s time to connect with a mental health professional.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

Parenting is hard work—and navigating homework struggles or social anxiety can leave families feeling frustrated and unsure of what to do next. At The Center, we walk alongside parents and children to build healthy routines, strengthen confidence, and find strategies that really work.

If you’d like support, our team of caring therapists is here to help.